Sunday, August 26, 2007

Find an ounce of happiness one day to be happier the next

Recovering from a bad relationship is like traveling on a long, jagged road that takes weeks or months to travel before the road ahead straightens. It's an exhaustive journey that you never really expect to travel. One way to survive the daily mire is to find or do something that makes you happy.

For me, happiness comes from time spent with family and friends. Every time I have dinner with a friend or do something with my kids, I feel a little better about myself and how my life is progressing. This gives me a little reinforcement that happier times are ahead and that there are other paths to achieving what I want out of life. My last relationship was not the end.

Every person has a different experience of happiness and finding that source of happiness will make surviving a bad relationship go faster. Try focusing on small things that are easy to achieve. Some ideas to consider are:

1. Go to dinner at a new restaurant. Use this as an opportunity ti try making small changes in your life.

2. Have a sleepover at a friend's house. A mini vacation without the cost of a hotel.

3. Try a new class in something different. Consider trying a dance class or jewelry-making course.

4. Join a book club. Book clubs offer the opportunity to discuss different topics of interest and explore how those topics relate back to your life.

5. Get a new hair style. A new haircut can quickly give you a new image. If you don't like the style, it simply grows out.

6. Talk to a stranger while waiting in line. Consider striking up a conversation with someone in a Starbucks line. You meet a variety of different people and gain confidence in your social skills.

Building happiness into your everyday life will jumpstart you to moving beyond a broken relationship.

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